Have you ever thought about how much time you mentally dedicate to things you can’t control? There is much we can’t control in this life – from daily annoyances to major tragedies. We can’t control how people behave. We can’t control if a relative gets cancer. We can’t control our own spouses and children. We […]
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Emotional Constipation.
Often, we hold back our emotions. It makes sense if we were brought up to think it was crucial to hide our anger or sadness or that having negative feelings was wrong. These emotions can be unpopular and often make those around us uncomfortable if they can’t “fix it.” We may even hide positive feelings […]
Eye Contact.
According to Psychologist Susan O’Grady, “The human face is associated with our identity; we are recognized more through our eyes than through any other facial feature.” The APA handbook of nonverbal communication even says that the eyes offer such rich social information that adults and infants alike show a natural attraction to the entire face. […]
Are you controlled by fear?
Many of us are controlled by fear every day without realizing it. After all, just scroll through your news feed and you will find articles, stories, and quotes, many of which are rooted in fear. Just this daily onslaught of news and social media messages is enough to make anyone think powerfully negative thoughts about […]
Perfectionism.
Panic.
Great quote from Melody Beattie – A great reminder that panic is the enemy.
The Best Gift You Can Give to Others
In the next to last chapter of The Stories We Tell Ourselves, I wrote, “The reason we want to become people of presence is that it greatly increases our chances for connection, and there is nothing our souls crave more than a meaningful connection with another person.” You may not consciously believe that, but deep […]
A Timeless Tip for Better Presence
According to a 2015 study performed by Nottingham Trent University, 18- to 33-year-olds in England look at their phones an average of 85 times per day, or about one-third of their waking time. The study asked participants to guess how often they looked at their phones, and then each participant’s phone had an app installed […]
Where Are You on the Continuum of Presence?
I find it helpful to visualize continuums for certain aspects of my life that I’d like to see change for the better. I present these continuums to my clients as well, and I’ve seen these continuums be helpful tools for them to assess themselves and figure out where they are and where they hope to […]
Are You a Person of Presence?
Recently on my blog, I discussed how you can become more present within your relationships. I suggested how you can increase your neuroplasticity to help train your brain to be more present. I gave one quick yet effective tip for increasing your self-awareness while in conversation with another person. And finally I provided a way […]
