There are times in marriage where things are very challenging. Even impossible. Maybe you’ve thought to yourself, “I’m done, I can’t live like this anymore”. Instead of taking the leaning out path, writing each other off, and starting over, humility can allow each person to face the hard truths about themselves and each other. It’s […]
Addiction is a relationship. It is an unhealthy relationship with a chemical (drugs, alcohol) and/or an experience where you avoid yourself (feelings and thoughts) and isolate yourself from others. Many who suffer from addiction feel disconnected, lonely, and isolated. These intense feelings can give rise to addictive behaviors. Studies have shown that individuals who feel […]
For most human beings, life is far from perfect. For many of us, something traumatic has occurred in our lives at some point in time – whether it was in our childhood, our teenage years, or in adulthood. Those traumatic experiences or chapters in our lives generate real emotions and feelings. Unless we process these […]
Have you ever thought about how much time you mentally dedicate to things you can’t control? There is much we can’t control in this life – from daily annoyances to major tragedies. We can’t control how people behave. We can’t control if a relative gets cancer. We can’t control our own spouses and children. We […]
It truly takes tremendous courage to face our own painful feelings, rather than avoiding through numbing or escaping. Many us of choose to avoid painful emotions by ignoring, dismissing or escape them with a veil of “positivity.” Even more of us avoid painful feelings by numbing/escaping with drugs, alcohol, or self-harm. Whether it is a […]
Author Jonathan Morris once wrote, “Letting go of things that really do need fixing can feel like injustice, irresponsibility, or indifference on our part.” I would imagine some of you can relate. It’s natural to want to do something about things that feel out of our control. When we are faced with situations in life […]
It is extremely important to observe, become aware, and understand how our parents impacted our brain during the developmental years. It is also important to feel our feelings related to what we needed and didn’t get emotionally from our parents. It is equally important to get to a point where we stop blaming our parents […]
When the infatuation stage of a relationship wears off, that is when real intimacy can begin. Falling in love is a beautiful and important part of the experience but the “honeymoon phase” of a relationship is very euphoric and those intense feelings can cloud how we view our partners. Once we get through this initial […]
As parents, we, of course, want the very best for our children. Raising emotionally intelligent kids will help them to become strong adults who will lead happy lives and have healthy relationships. Research by relationship expert Dr. John Gottman shows that emotional awareness and the ability to manage feelings will determine how successful and happy […]
Dr. R. Scott Gornto, PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PHD in Individual, Marriage and Family Therapy. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist, and has extensive training in the Behavioral Sciences and Personal Development. Dr. Gornto is in private practice and has been practicing in North Texas since 1999. He works with individuals, couples, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, entrepreneurs/leaders and businesses from Plano, Frisco, McKinney, Allen, Prosper and Dallas and the surrounding areas. Dr. Gornto is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.