On Relationships: The chemistry, passion and connection you feel at the beginning of your relationship isn’t true, emotional intimacy. It’s simply the initial stage of connection. Emotional intimacy takes time to develop. Relationships have to move through many milestone markers to make it to the next stage. Some relationships make it through said markers and […]
Message from a therapist… Relationship non-negotiables… Healthy communication is an absolute must Self-awareness is an absolute must Empathy is an absolute must Courage is an absolute must Growth is an absolute must Humility is an absolute must #messagefromatherapist #drrscottgornto
On Relationships: Healthy, romantic relationships are only sustainable if you communicate openly, honestly and frequently. Relationships die when you stay in your head, hold back your truth and feelings, avoid conflict, avoid difficult conversations and don’t apologize. #onrelationships #drrscottgornto
(the highest form of) EMOTIONAL MATURITY looks like… …taking full, complete, 100% personal responsibility for how you react or respond, along with how you feel and think… …rather than saying, “you caused me or made me” or trying to justify behavior “I did that because you did…”, emotional mature individuals are fully conscious of their […]
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Stop expecting your partner to read your mind. Mature relationships ask each other what they want and need and work towards valuing and supporting those requests. #onrelationships #drrscottgornto
You can love and even genuinely like your partner, but without healthy, adult, mature behavior…love is often not enough. #onrelationships #drrscottgornto
Message from a therapist: Rather than… …make yourself small for others …stay in an unhealthy relationship …give up yourself for your relationship …sacrifice your physical and mental health for your career …not give yourself margin Choose instead to… …see and behave congruently like the adult you are …remove yourself from that unhealthy relationship […]
Trying to argue, defend, justify or explain yourself with a person suffering with significant narcissism will keep you hooked, staying stuck in the unhealthy cycle and allowing yourself to be held emotionally hostage in that unhealthy relationship. Rather, stick only to facts, remain emotionally distant and keep the conversations short.
Dr. R. Scott Gornto, PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PhD in Psychotherapy, Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy and is a trained psychotherapist, counselor and peak performance coach. He is a Licensed Psychotherapist (Individual, Marriage and Family in Texas and Arizona), a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist and has extensive training in the behavioral sciences and personal development. Dr. Gornto is in private practice and has been practicing in North Texas since 1999. He works with individuals, couples, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, entrepreneurs/leaders and businesses from Plano, Frisco, McKinney, Allen, Prosper and Dallas and the surrounding areas. Dr. Gornto is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.