Recently, I was traveling down a major Dallas freeway, heading to an 8 a.m. meeting several miles away. Like most days in Dallas, there were probably 10,000 other people heading in the same direction – but on this cold and rainy morning in January it seemed like traffic was even heavier than usual. As I […]
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Balancing Heart and Mind
When I was 10 years old, my mom took my 8-year-old sister and I to run some errands. I was in the front seat of our Ford F150 extended cab truck beside my mom while my sister sat in the small back seat. We stopped at a house on the outskirts of town, and my […]
In Love vs. Love
“I’ve been married for 17 years and I just want to feel something again. I want to be in love again, like when we first met.” A client voiced that to me recently in a session, and it’s something I hear daily in my work with clients. If we’re totally honest about it, I think […]
Are you willing to confront your unattractive behavior?
When couples come to counseling and we begin working together on their issues, I often start by asking each person two important questions: 1. Do you have a desire to work on the relationship? 2. Are you willing to confront your own unattractive behavior? Sounds like fun, doesn’t it? I believe that relationships cause us […]
Growing Up
Back in Spring of 2012, after 15 years of research and practice, I developed an approach to relationships called the Auxano Approach®. Auxano is a Greek word that means “to cause to grow, increase, or grow up.” I believe that relationships, and marriage in particular, cause us to “grow up” emotionally. In fact, I say […]
