Relationships

On Relationships: True intimacy can only exist between two “calm identities.” Individuality proceeds togetherness. Intimacy is not losing yourself in the other, melding or fusing into the other. Intimacy exists in the balance of individuality and connection, separateness and togetherness. #onrelationships #drrscottgornto

Message from a therapist… Psychotherapy (in Greek) literally means to research, to heal and to listen to the soul/spirit. I’m incredibly grateful for the gift of being a psychotherapist…being invited in to listen and join with my clients towards the healing of their soul. #messagefromatherapist #drrscottgornto

On Relationships: The chemistry, passion and connection you feel at the beginning of your relationship isn’t true, emotional intimacy. It’s simply the initial stage of connection. Emotional intimacy takes time to develop.  Relationships have to move through many milestone markers to make it to the next stage. Some relationships make it through said markers and […]

Message from a therapist… Relationship non-negotiables… Healthy communication is an absolute must Self-awareness is an absolute must Empathy is an absolute must Courage is an absolute must Growth is an absolute must Humility is an absolute must  #messagefromatherapist #drrscottgornto

On Relationships: Healthy, romantic relationships are only sustainable if you communicate openly, honestly and frequently. Relationships die when you stay in your head, hold back your truth and feelings, avoid conflict, avoid difficult conversations and don’t apologize.  #onrelationships #drrscottgornto

#theolderIget #drrscottgornto

Stop expecting your partner to read your mind. Mature relationships ask each other what they want and need and work towards valuing and supporting those requests.  #onrelationships #drrscottgornto

You can love and even genuinely like your partner, but without healthy, adult, mature behavior…love is often not enough.  #onrelationships #drrscottgornto

Message from a therapist:   Rather than… …make yourself small for others  …stay in an unhealthy relationship  …give up yourself for your relationship  …sacrifice your physical and mental health for your career  …not give yourself margin    Choose instead to… …see and behave congruently like the adult you are  …remove yourself from that unhealthy relationship […]

Trying to argue, defend, justify or explain yourself with a person suffering with significant narcissism will keep you hooked, staying stuck in the unhealthy cycle and allowing yourself to be held emotionally hostage in that unhealthy relationship. Rather, stick only to facts, remain emotionally distant and keep the conversations short.