Cultivating self-awareness can help us understand ourselves and our relationships. It is a tremendous tool for many of the issues we face in our lives: stress, relationship problems, our moods, negative circumstances, fear, insecurity. Self-awareness also helps us to live in facts, not fiction. We can stop creating false beliefs about ourselves when we are […]
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Making It Right.
When we’re committed to our marriage/relationship, we work to repair and heal any rifts between us and our partners. It is a guarantee that significant issues will arise throughout the journey of our relationship – don’t let a fight become an emotional gridlock.
Love Story.
“Someone else’s love story is never going to be yours. True love is woven out of honoring and understanding each other’s unique gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities.” John Gottman, Ph.D.
Reach Out.
We all long for safe relationships. But they don’t just happen. We can’t do this life on our own – we must risk reaching out and asking for what we need in our relationships. Close connections with others keep us strong and secure.
Don’t Let the Inner Critic Win
Don’t let the inner critic win. A little self-talk is good – it keeps us in check with our present situation. But if you let it spiral out of control – it can be become excessive. And over the long term, studies show, self trash-talk is associated with higher stress levels and even depression.
The Illusion of Control.
What stories do you tell yourself when it seems you are facing insurmountable problems? We must work to shift our perception of reality – and see the facts in the here and now. Letting our mind play tricks on us gives us the illusion that we are in control. Challenge yourself not to let your […]
We Need Love.
We were born for relationship with each other. We have a deep need for emotionally safe relationships. As Dr. Johnson says, “Love is the best survival strategy of all.” We must remain committed to our love relationships, open to the processes of change and healing – in order that we might have a relationship that […]
Receive the Truth
Being willing to receive truth means that we work to live in the present moment and encounter people and situations as they really are. We live in the truth about our circumstances rather than filling in the blanks with false narratives. “The Stories We Tell Ourselves” – coming Summer 2014
Trapped in bad thoughts?
Press pause on the negative self-talk that leads to anxiety and distance in relationships. You can train your thoughts to live in truth by choosing to stop making up stories in your mind about your circumstances and relationships.
3 WAYS TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER
1. Notice when you say yes when you really mean no. 2. Make a choice to speak your opinions, perspectives and beliefs. 3. Don’t be swayed by another persons anger when you share your thoughts. Hold on and be true to yourself.
