“Someone else’s love story is never going to be yours. True love is woven out of honoring and understanding each other’s unique gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities.” John Gottman, Ph.D.
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Reach Out.
We all long for safe relationships. But they don’t just happen. We can’t do this life on our own – we must risk reaching out and asking for what we need in our relationships. Close connections with others keep us strong and secure.
Don’t Let the Inner Critic Win
Don’t let the inner critic win. A little self-talk is good – it keeps us in check with our present situation. But if you let it spiral out of control – it can be become excessive. And over the long term, studies show, self trash-talk is associated with higher stress levels and even depression.
The Illusion of Control.
What stories do you tell yourself when it seems you are facing insurmountable problems? We must work to shift our perception of reality – and see the facts in the here and now. Letting our mind play tricks on us gives us the illusion that we are in control. Challenge yourself not to let your […]
We Need Love.
We were born for relationship with each other. We have a deep need for emotionally safe relationships. As Dr. Johnson says, “Love is the best survival strategy of all.” We must remain committed to our love relationships, open to the processes of change and healing – in order that we might have a relationship that […]
Receive the Truth
Being willing to receive truth means that we work to live in the present moment and encounter people and situations as they really are. We live in the truth about our circumstances rather than filling in the blanks with false narratives. “The Stories We Tell Ourselves” – coming Summer 2014
Trapped in bad thoughts?
Press pause on the negative self-talk that leads to anxiety and distance in relationships. You can train your thoughts to live in truth by choosing to stop making up stories in your mind about your circumstances and relationships.
3 WAYS TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER
1. Notice when you say yes when you really mean no. 2. Make a choice to speak your opinions, perspectives and beliefs. 3. Don’t be swayed by another persons anger when you share your thoughts. Hold on and be true to yourself.
10 ways to choose happiness and avoid making yourself miserable
1. Remember that your husband or wife’s happiness is not your responsibility. We are responsible for our own happiness. 2. Don’t expect life to go perfectly. Perfectionism kills joy and steals happiness. 3. Avoid making yourself a victim in relationships. 4. Stop trying to control the things in life you can’t control. 5. Train yourself […]
THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES
UPDATE ON MY NEW BOOK…. THE STORIES WE TELL OURSELVES My original plan was to launch my book in late October 2013. However, I am the process of adding several exciting updates and additions to make the book as strong as possible. Additionally, I want to give more time to reach as many people as […]
