Shame is the little voice inside your head telling you you’re not good enough. It is a difficult emotion to escape. When we experience shame around a circumstance in our lives, it triggers a feeling of being somehow “different” or “damaged.” So we hide our shame. But, you are not alone. Only relationships and empathy […]
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Being Real.
How will you show up and be real in your relationships today? “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” – Brene Brown
Feeling lonely?
The National Science Foundation (NSF) recently reported that unprecedented numbers of Americans are lonely. A study found that one in four feel they have no one with whom they can talk about their personal troubles or triumphs. We cannot allow ourselves to live in social isolation and we cannot afford to not experience close connection […]
Cultivating Self-Awareness.
Cultivating self-awareness can help us understand ourselves and our relationships. It is a tremendous tool for many of the issues we face in our lives: stress, relationship problems, our moods, negative circumstances, fear, insecurity. Self-awareness also helps us to live in facts, not fiction. We can stop creating false beliefs about ourselves when we are […]
Making It Right.
When we’re committed to our marriage/relationship, we work to repair and heal any rifts between us and our partners. It is a guarantee that significant issues will arise throughout the journey of our relationship – don’t let a fight become an emotional gridlock.
Love Story.
“Someone else’s love story is never going to be yours. True love is woven out of honoring and understanding each other’s unique gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities.” John Gottman, Ph.D.
Reach Out.
We all long for safe relationships. But they don’t just happen. We can’t do this life on our own – we must risk reaching out and asking for what we need in our relationships. Close connections with others keep us strong and secure.
Don’t Let the Inner Critic Win
Don’t let the inner critic win. A little self-talk is good – it keeps us in check with our present situation. But if you let it spiral out of control – it can be become excessive. And over the long term, studies show, self trash-talk is associated with higher stress levels and even depression.
The Illusion of Control.
What stories do you tell yourself when it seems you are facing insurmountable problems? We must work to shift our perception of reality – and see the facts in the here and now. Letting our mind play tricks on us gives us the illusion that we are in control. Challenge yourself not to let your […]
We Need Love.
We were born for relationship with each other. We have a deep need for emotionally safe relationships. As Dr. Johnson says, “Love is the best survival strategy of all.” We must remain committed to our love relationships, open to the processes of change and healing – in order that we might have a relationship that […]
