“We need to talk.” I’m not sure if there are any other four-word combinations that are as capable as that phrase in instilling fear into the hearts and minds of both men and women. Whether it’s a spouse, friend, boss or co-worker, we don’t want to hear those four words strung together and spoken in […]
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How would you complete this sentence?
“My spouse just told me, ‘We need to talk,’ so that must mean he or she is __________.” Now, ask yourself why you chose that particular word to fill in the blank. Were you quick to complete the sentence, or did you carefully consider what could be behind those vague words? Did you think about […]
A Defensive Self-Assessment
We all build protective walls around ourselves, but some of us are much better wall-builders than others. Some erect walls so thick that no one can get in—or out. But this kind of defensiveness leads to loneliness, and loneliness ultimately kills the soul. (Watch the film Murder in the First for a solid illustration of that fact.) But […]
Rifling Through Your Mental Filing Cabinet
I believe that every one of us file away dozens of stories in our minds every day. We don’t do this intentionally. It just happens. Whether the story is from a movie you just watched or an experience you just had, you place these stories in a mental filing cabinet. But the tabs on these […]
We’re All Hemingways.
Even if you’re not a writer, you’re an incredible fiction author. Don’t believe me? Think about a relationship that’s stressing you out right now. You know you need to talk to that person, but you also know it’s not going to be fun. And because of that, you’ve likely tried to play out in your […]
Mental Calisthenics.
I strive to stay fit and eat healthy. Like many of you, I work out on a regular basis and I’m careful about what I consume. But depending on what season of life I’m in, the amount of exercise I get and what I actually allow myself to eat start changing—and often not for the […]
The Single Greatest Cause of Stress In Your Life.
“Scott, how in the world could you know the greatest stressor in my life?” I know. It’s presumptuous. But because of my job, I listen to hundreds of men and women tell me about what’s weighing them down and preventing them from experiencing the kinds of fulfilling lives they desire. When you begin to look […]
What’s Your Emotional IQ?
Do you consider yourself an emotionally intelligent person? Do you believe you’re relationally intelligent? What do these phrases even mean? In Handle with Care, a workbook on building emotional intelligence, the authors define emotional intelligence as “a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others […]
Are You a Person of Presence?
Learning to be present in your relationships allows you to become a person of presence. In other words, we need to train our minds and emotions to have a form of muscle memory where we don’t even need to consciously remind ourselves to live in the moment. Rather, because we’ve practiced being present for so […]
Book Release Party – Join Me.
Please join me for the official launch of The Stories We Tell Ourselves! RSVP info@drrscottgornto.com.
