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In the next to last chapter of The Stories We Tell Ourselves, I wrote, “The reason we want to become people of presence is that it greatly increases our chances for connection, and there is nothing our souls crave more than a meaningful connection with another person.” You may not consciously believe that, but deep […]

According to a 2015 study performed by Nottingham Trent University, 18- to 33-year-olds in England look at their phones an average of 85 times per day, or about one-third of their waking time. The study asked participants to guess how often they looked at their phones, and then each participant’s phone had an app installed […]

I find it helpful to visualize continuums for certain aspects of my life that I’d like to see change for the better. I present these continuums to my clients as well, and I’ve seen these continuums be helpful tools for them to assess themselves and figure out where they are and where they hope to […]

Recently on my blog, I discussed how you can become more present within your relationships. I suggested how you can increase your neuroplasticity to help train your brain to be more present. I gave one quick yet effective tip for increasing your self-awareness while in conversation with another person. And finally I provided a way […]

Much too often, we mentally fight against wave after wave of coulda, woulda, shouldas: I could have done more. I would have made a different choice. I should have known better. Or we look to the future and ask the positive what-ifs (What if that promotion comes through?) and the anxious what-ifs (What if she […]

Do you ever find yourself experiencing any of these physical reactions when in conversation with another person? Quick, shallow breathing Increased heart rate Wandering eye contact Clenching your jaw Grinding your teeth Taking a step back All of these actions—which we often don’t even notice we’re doing—are sure signs that you’re not being present in […]