Shame is the little voice inside your head telling you you’re not good enough. It is a difficult emotion to escape. When we experience shame around a circumstance in our lives, it triggers a feeling of being somehow “different” or “damaged.” So we hide our shame. But, you are not alone. Only relationships and empathy […]
The National Science Foundation (NSF) recently reported that unprecedented numbers of Americans are lonely. A study found that one in four feel they have no one with whom they can talk about their personal troubles or triumphs. We cannot allow ourselves to live in social isolation and we cannot afford to not experience close connection […]
Cultivating self-awareness can help us understand ourselves and our relationships. It is a tremendous tool for many of the issues we face in our lives: stress, relationship problems, our moods, negative circumstances, fear, insecurity. Self-awareness also helps us to live in facts, not fiction. We can stop creating false beliefs about ourselves when we are […]
When we’re committed to our marriage/relationship, we work to repair and heal any rifts between us and our partners. It is a guarantee that significant issues will arise throughout the journey of our relationship – don’t let a fight become an emotional gridlock.
“Someone else’s love story is never going to be yours. True love is woven out of honoring and understanding each other’s unique gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities.” John Gottman, Ph.D.
We all long for safe relationships. But they don’t just happen. We can’t do this life on our own – we must risk reaching out and asking for what we need in our relationships. Close connections with others keep us strong and secure.
What stories do you tell yourself when it seems you are facing insurmountable problems? We must work to shift our perception of reality – and see the facts in the here and now. Letting our mind play tricks on us gives us the illusion that we are in control. Challenge yourself not to let your […]
We were born for relationship with each other. We have a deep need for emotionally safe relationships. As Dr. Johnson says, “Love is the best survival strategy of all.” We must remain committed to our love relationships, open to the processes of change and healing – in order that we might have a relationship that […]
Dr. R. Scott Gornto, PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PhD in Psychotherapy, Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy and is a trained psychotherapist, counselor and peak performance coach. He is a Licensed Psychotherapist (Individual, Marriage and Family in Texas and Arizona), a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist and has extensive training in the behavioral sciences and personal development. Dr. Gornto is in private practice and has been practicing in North Texas since 1999. He works with individuals, couples, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, entrepreneurs/leaders and businesses from Plano, Frisco, McKinney, Allen, Prosper and Dallas and the surrounding areas. Dr. Gornto is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.