A great thing to remember about love and partnerships. Author Brene Brown also calls it “passionate listening.” We work to focus on what the other person is really saying to us, validating their words, and expressing empathy. We don’t just formulate our own response or reaction while the other person is talking. We can change […]
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The Stories We Tell Ourselves.
We often create inner dramas to make sense of the world around us. When we don’t understand another person’s thoughts or motives, we construct narratives to explain their actions, and they become characters in movies we direct and play in our own minds. My new book, “The Stories We Tell Ourselves,” will be a tool […]
Looking Within.
We have a choice every day, perhaps every moment, to care about the process our souls must go through – the journey that gets us from where we are to where we are going. Often the only way through pain is look within, continue bravely and openly, and discover that self-awareness can bring freedom and […]
Share Your Story.
We’re All On the Same Page.
Harville Hendrix reminds us that each partner in a relationship has childhood wounds that need to be faced. These old wounds play a role in our adult lives and relationships. But most importantly Hendrix reminds us that we can all stop trying to compete – “Who had it worse?” We can courageously work to help […]
Old Ways.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” We have to try new things in order to have new experiences. Unless we work to break old habits, let go of relationships that are doing us more harm than good, and press pause on negative […]
Press pause on the negative self-talk.
Today is a new day – make it count! Wake up today believing you can change your thoughts, change your life. Look for ways to see what is really happening around you, pressing pause on those fictional narratives playing out in your mind. Choose to stop telling yourself stories.
Boundaries.
Setting boundaries is essential if we want to be both physically and emotionally healthy. When healthy boundaries are in place, we can properly contain our thoughts and feelings. “If we become boundaryless,” says Mellody, we allow in too much from another person or send out too much ourselves…Controlled vulnerability keeps us open enough so that […]
The Stories We Tell Ourselves.
Much of our reality is created with our thoughts, feelings and beliefs. Yes, there are events beyond our control that happen to us. But the power behind our thoughts, those stories we tell ourselves, is immense. What you think often becomes you. Those assumptions you make about the narrative of your life – can make or […]
Becoming the Best Version of Yourself.
Becoming the best version of yourself is possible. And since relationships are one of the most important aspects of our lives – they are crucial to the process. It helps to define the best version of yourself within the context of your relationships. Who do you see yourself to be? How does this person interact […]
