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Letting Go of What You Can’t Change.

September 10, 2020 by Dr. R. Scott Gornto Leave a Comment

Author Jonathan Morris once wrote, “Letting go of things that really do need fixing can feel like injustice, irresponsibility, or indifference on our part.” I would imagine some of you can relate. It’s natural to want to do something about things that feel out of our control. When we are faced with situations in life where we are playing tug-of-war with ourselves or something we just can’t fix, we often find ourselves pushing and pulling wanting to perfect the circumstance or make it right. We want “all things to be right with the world.” But, what we often find is the harder and harder we push back or try to make things perfect or right, the more things seem to fly out of control anyways. And it can be a humbling moment when we just have to relinquish control and let the chips fall where they may.

One of the happiest moments in life is when we find the strength and courage to let go of what we cannot change. Life is a series of events and situations that we don’t have power or control over and when we realize this, there can be so much freedom in doing nothing. The discomfort we experience initially in opening our hands and letting go may mean we could experience a little more peace. It’s not an easy task to accept the things we cannot change…but I recommend it as a regular practice. It requires a cognitive shift, changing the way we perceive and react to situations, as well as loosening our grip on what we can and cannot change. When we let go of those things we can’t control, you’ll be amazed at what you can refocus your energy on.

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Dr. R. Scott Gornto, PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PHD in Individual, Marriage and Family Therapy. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist, and has extensive training in the Behavioral Sciences and Personal Development. Dr. Gornto is in private practice and has been practicing in North Texas since 1999. He works with individuals, couples, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, entrepreneurs/leaders and businesses from Plano, Frisco, McKinney, Allen, Prosper and Dallas and the surrounding areas. Dr. Gornto is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.

 

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Dr. R. Scott Gornto, PHD, MDIV, LMFT, EMDR holds a PHD in Individual, Marriage and Family Therapy. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a EMDR Trained Trauma Therapist, and has extensive training in the Behavioral Sciences and Personal Development. Dr. Gornto is in private practice and has been practicing in North Texas since 1999. He works with individuals, couples, adolescents (12 yrs old and up), families, groups, entrepreneurs/leaders and businesses from Plano, Frisco, McKinney, Allen, Prosper and Dallas and the surrounding areas. Dr. Gornto is the author of The Stories We Tell Ourselves™ and is a columnist for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today.

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