Addiction is a relationship.

Addiction is a relationship. It is an unhealthy relationship with a chemical (drugs, alcohol) and/or an experience where you avoid yourself (feelings and thoughts) and isolate yourself from others. Many who suffer from addiction feel disconnected, lonely, and isolated. These intense feelings can give rise to addictive behaviors. Studies have shown that individuals who feel socially isolated generally deal with increased mental health and substance abuse issues. The opposite holds true as well: Addiction to drugs and alcohol may just be an effect of isolation - but also the cause of isolation.

Many people turn to substances because they are isolated and lonely - and many people are isolated and lonely because they are addicted to substances. Decreasing interactions/social engagement will lead to continued isolation and hopelessness. There will be a continued need to escape from reality and the further an individual descends into addiction, the less connected they will feel to other human beings.

The beginning of recovery is about connecting with yourself as well as connecting with others in a safe and healthy environment. No one can understand your struggles if you are not willing to let them know what you are experiencing. Letting one or two safe people know that you need some help is the first step. In addition, recovery is also a time for researching and investigating the reasons for one’s addiction.

Instead of continuing your relationship with the chemical, try spending time with others, calling an old friend, or seek professional help. Doing so may support a path to sobriety and empower you to face the challenges as well as freedoms of recovery.