2016 has started, it’s always beneficial to take inventory of how we’ve done in the various relational spheres of our lives.
Overall, some years will be better than others. Some spheres may outperform others. But the key is to understand that we all have room for improvement in every relational sphere of our lives.
And as most parents know, we’re always learning how much more we need to learn about raising our children.
For this next year, I encourage you to consider these three simple steps toward refocusing your parenting in 2016:
1. Speak to your children with respect.
Author Peggy O’Mara wrote, “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” As parents we tend to treat kids in a one-down position. We treat them as “less-than” when we yell and scream at them. Imagine how that negatively impacts their internal voice. When you speak respectfully as a parent, you’re creating a positive inner voice for your child.
2. Don’t react; respond.
Reactions are emotional outbursts that are childlike in nature. Responses are patient, thoughtful, mature replies from an adult to a child. Don’t let fear, threats, or power be how you motivate your child to change. Rather, motivate through love, consequences, and boundaries.
3. Be present with your kids.
Grant your child the best gift they can receive: your time. Focus on them alone. If they’re young, play with them. If they’re older, speak with them. The gift of your time is priceless.
May your parenting skills reach new heights and your relationships with your children reach new depths in 2016.
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